We Succeed In Direct Correlation to How Much We Trust

Summary: The more we trust, the more we are willing to be vulnerable. The more vulnerable we are, the more we take action on the things we desire. 

This article, the second of four, shows you more on what causes your focus to be on negative and worst case scenarios. Understanding this concept well is essential in putting it all together.

A Scaredy Cat is a Cat That Lacks Trust

Have you ever picked up a feral kitten?

These abandoned cats can shred you to pieces as they escape you’re cuddling arms.

What makes them so brutal?

They don’t trust you.

Sadly, the feral kitten could benefit greatly from human intervention, but instead, they choose to go it alone. These ferocious felines would rather search for scraps of rotten food and live out in the cold hunting for the occasional vermin than allow themselves to be vulnerable to a cat lover.

Have you found yourself feeling the same way?

Have you become a scaredy cat trying to go it alone?

It doesn’t work, does it?

What Happened?

Maybe you once trusted enough to give your love to another, only to find yourself hurt and alone. So now, trust can feel like an impossibility.

What’s worse, when you do allow yourself to show interest again, it may seem that all you find are scary suspicious characters that appear only to be interested in their selfish advantages.

Conversely, sometimes we don’t know why we lack trust. Maybe we have never suffered any abandonment or betrayal that we can remember, and yet, we still are scaredy cats. How does that happen?

A lack of trust doesn’t always come from past events that have apparent mistreatment but a form of trauma is most likely always involved.

The trauma I speak of isn’t always a physical trauma like falling down a flight of stairs or being hit by a car. There are many emotional traumas, some subtle, some horrific, that can turn us into helpless scaredy cats. And so, you will want to know how to deal with these insidious experiences and the mindsets that come from them.

In an upcoming post, article number four, you will learn practical steps you can take to minimize its adverse effects on your life.

This you will do by changing your mental focus because trauma may have caused you to fixate at an unconscious level on a negative outcome image. By learning how to change that focus you will naturally impact your level of trust and transform your life.

The Shy Cat

The second definition found at www.urbandictionary.com for “scaredy cat” is, “Someone who shies away from facing their fears.”

Even if you haven’t had the trauma of trying to snuggle a feral, if you have ever at least tried bathing your cat, you know what that definition means.

Besides love, what kind of fears does a human scaredy cat tend to shy away from facing?

We may fear to make friends or to become close and connected with others. Perhaps we shy away from any social vulnerability, being creative, stepping up to the plate as a leader, self-promotion, selling, or starting new ventures. In other words, we have a hard time “putting ourselves out there.”

In fact, a lack of trust can derail us from any human endeavor.

From Fluffy, your well cared for house-cat, all the way to the mighty King of the Jungle, when a cat is in a state of distress, he is not going to leap unswervingly toward his kitty endeavors

Human undertakings can be just as distressing for us when we lack trust.

Think about it, what causes broken hearts, broke bank accounts, or a broken spirit?

It’s always, always, always going to come down to broken trust.

Broken trust turns us into scaredy cats who fail consistently at what we determine to be important.

What exasperates the problem is though sometimes some of us are painfully aware that we don’t trust certain people, most often, we don’t realize we have trust issues on many secret levels. Not to worry, by learning the skill of changing your mind’s eye’s internal focus, you can flush out the trust issue and resolve them. Why is that so important?

What Lack of Trust Does

Having no trust can be compared to being stuffed into a tight little box where you can’t break free.

It’s a hard place to be when we feel like we’re losing in life. It’s called, “feeling like a loser.”

Have you ever felt like a loser?

When that happens, goals become hopeless. Even when you force yourself to go after something, it soon seems like a wall suddenly appears in between where you are now and where you want to be.

This invisible barrier happens because internal levels of trust are running on empty; its a lack of confidence in others, and maybe even in ourselves.

Trust Is the Magical Ingredient

www.Dictionary.com’s section on word origin mentions this about the root of our modern English word, trust. It says, “see true.”

Did that dictionary refer us to the word “true?”

Yes. Apparently, the modern word “trust,” comes from the same root.

When you lose trust, in essence, you no longer know what is true. You don’t know what to believe, and that is what causes the problem.

It’s hard to seize the day when you don’t think you can count on much. Instead, we behave like scaredy cats.

Is There Anyone You Can Trust?

Conflicting statements run in our head; “People are inherently good,” versus, “People are motivated by selfishness.” Or, “People usually can be trusted,” versus, “People only are kind long enough to get something out of you.”

We rarely have any conscious awareness that these competing beliefs are at work deep in the recesses of our neurology.

These contradicting beliefs cause huge differences in the outcomes we get in life; they significantly impact our quality of life either for the positive or the negative.

One reason why is because if we trust in others at a fundamental level, we are willing to be vulnerable. And only then do we take action and “stick to it” even when things get difficult.

But there’s more to it than that. As we’ll see in future posts, the mind gets programmed with either of these beliefs, and that causes the quality of what we produce because we get what we focus on unconsciously.

If we lack trust, we dare not take any chances because we see things with our mind’s eye that can cause us harm. It’s a pretty listless, perhaps even an anxious life when we are focused on worst case scenarios.

Consequently, we may tend to mistakenly shred those we can trust, not be able to distinguish who is trustworthy, and we may want to hide under the covers as much as possible.

Yes, being a scaredy cat is just not the way to go.

How do we reverse the fear?

Stay tuned for the third post in this series entitled, “Fortunately or Unfortunately, You Get What You Focus On.” Learn the mechanics of turning around your trust levels by altering your internal focus.

Keep your eye out for the next article!